I recently met a submissive who is what many women of my condition would consider the ideal. He is a service submissive. An actual service submissive. That means his pleasure is derived from my happiness. It means he strives to understand what I want and make it happen. My happiness is his happiness.
But that's only the obvious part. Because many suitors may describe themselves as a service submissive but it quickly becomes clear whether it is a lifestyle, or a fetish. When someone is a service submissive they have a healthy ego. They are capable of occupying a submissive role full time while maximizing their functionality and the value they add to the relationship.
A service submissive is never a burden, always an asset and should be tended to like the prized possession that they are by the one fortunate enough to be blessed with a selfless, capable submissive. They are the knights and the beta boys of the BDSM community and they are to me the absolute best. A rare.
The difference between a service submissive and someone with a service fetish is the service submissive lives to serve and is consumed by their need to please on a near constant basis. Someone with a service fetish often has a directly sexual connect to their service and therefore often only wants to serve when they are sexually frustrated or turned on. How do I know this? Because my service submissive Sasha Shame has done whatever I asked of them for over 15 years and we have had only one scene together - ever. I like to test the limits of those who serve me, especially their devotion and loyalty.
What does service mean to you?