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Kinky Valentine Gift Ideas



This year, make a plan to celebrate Valentine’s Day. It’s a great time to introduce kink to your relationship or treat your single self to a new experience. Adult toys make great gifts at Valentine’s. There are several categories of toys available. For the purpose of this article, we will focus on male sex toys. I also have a few gift suggestions for your favorite FemDom. Adult retail has undergone a revolution recently. Today’s toys are body safe, often waterproof and rechargeable. An explosion in informed design has resulted in a variety of choices. Shopping for pleasure products today is a pleasure. Let’s begin.



The toy major categories for male sex toys are masturbators and anal play. Anal play includes beads, plugs and vibrators. Anal play has always been popular among men regardless of sexual orientation. The reason is the prostate gland which is inside the male anus. When stimulated the gland produces intense, pleasurable sensations. Anal plugs have flared bottoms so they stay in place and are easy to remove. Some plugs also vibrate. Some plugs are dual stimulation. They have two sides – one for inside the anus and another for stimulating the perineum. The perineum is the area between the anus and the testicles. Vibrators that are designed to stimulate the g-spot also work very well for stimulating the prostate, or p-spot. It turns out both spots are in pretty much the same location whether it’s the vagina or the male anus. And that location is a few inches inside on the anterior or belly side of things. The P-spot is hard and smooth. It stores seminal fluid and when full it is distended. My favorite thing about the p-spot is the pulsing, you can actually feel a person’s heartbeat at the prostate. Medical grade silicone is body safe and easy to clean and many plugs are made from it. However, I still recommend using a condom when enjoying anal play because it prevents any foul odors from attaching to the silicone.



Masturbators are toys designed for masturbating the penis and there are many levels and styles. Some are even disposable. The most important thing to consider with a penis sleeve style toy is clean up. Some of the toys open up and can be cleaned easily. Others do not. Some are open ended at the top of the sleeve, some are not. There are masturbators that vibrate and some even heat up or can be chilled in the freezer for thermal play. Almost all penis toys are hand held so ask for a little help from a friend or plan to be engaged in the process.



Another option is a classic – the cock ring. A cock ring can be worn throughout the day like a sexy piece of jewellery but it really fulfills its purpose when worn during sex. Cock rings are often made of silicone or metal and can increase the size, stiffness and duration of an erect penis while increasing sensitivity. Cock rings are small, but they have a mighty impact on pleasure.


And lastly – what to get for the Dominant female in your life? If one of the lovely ladies who graces the pages of Darkside magazine has captured your attention, get her a gift. Cash is still king so gift cards are always well received. Make sure to send the gift card electronically so the receiver can quickly and easily apply the gift to a purchase. Physical gift cards are meant to be used in person and require quite a bit of extra effort on the part of the receiver if you send a picture of the front and back. It’s cumbersome and tedious so stick to

electronic gift cards. If your favorite kinky woman is also your intimate partner, get her a good lube. I repeat – get her a good lube. Guess what my favorite sex toy is? Yes – a good lube! Most of what is available at your local pharmacy is no longer acceptable because there are so many superior options to choose from. Lubes come in two formulas – silicone or water. Silicone is the type that feels very slippery and lasts a long time. It’s a popular choice for anal play. Water based formulas feel more natural and are easier to clean up than silicone formulas. For starters, choose a lube that has a pretty bottle. Some of the larger lubes are designed to look like perfume bottles or something else lovely you wouldn’t mind leaving out on the nightstand next to your bed. Lube is important. It makes everything better, even things you think are already pretty great.

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