PD: Please tell us about yourself (where you were born, your goals

and ambitions etc)

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I was born in northern California to a fairly religious family but deep down I always

knew I didn’t fit inside that box. I moved around the west coast, exploring the PNW

before finally making my way to Las Vegas in 2023. 

 

PD: How did you get your start in BDSM?

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My first job out of high school was working at a Halloween Store, I had a coworker

who was in a polyamorous marriage and training under a pro domme as well. We

had lunch together and she introduced me to FetLife, and from there, I just dove

right into the world of BDSM. 

 

PD: Were you nervous at all, going in?

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(Laughs) No, I think that the few times I may have been nervous, it was easily

overwhelmed and replaced with the feeling of excitement. I live for new experiences,

I love to learn and I’m a very curious individual by nature. 

 

PD: How long have You been a Pro-Domme and have You seen many changes within that time? 

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After floating in and out of the scene for a bit, I can proudly say that I’ve been a pro for 6 years now. And in that time, I’ve been actively in a FLR (Female Led Relationship for those who don’t know) with my husband. When I first started, I was strictly phone and online chat only; I eventually transitioned into webcam sessions, clip producing and occasional/select in person sessions. I think the biggest changes I’ve seen since starting has been OnlyFans and the explosion of sex work in mainstream media/vanilla world. Obviously there’s lots of “vanilla” creators on OF, but it’s wild how it became as popular as 50 Shades of Grey (btw don’t read that if you’re looking for good erotica about BDSM lol).

 

PD: When did You first realise that You were a dominant female and when did that knowledge manifest itself?

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I’ve always been bratty, and my motto that I live by is “can’t tell me what to do”. I’ve been that way all my life. Once I discovered kink and BDSM, everything else fell into place. I’m a sadomasochist, and I have switched before; but ultimately the times I found myself in a “submissive” role, I ended up topping from the bottom. But I think that the fact I’ve had submissive experiences is part of what makes me a better domme. I know what it’s like to put yourself in a vulnerable position, to have to trust that your top will take care of you. 

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PD: Do Your slaves come from any particular area of society or is it a cross-section?

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Most of my slaves and subs are American men, but I’ve had sessions with subs and slaves all over the world. They all have different kinks, desires, different jobs, different age ranges, different lives. I live for variety.

 

PD: What happens in a normal session?

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Most of my sessions are online/virtual only. I’m extremely selective about who I session with in person, as I don’t ever meet clients without my husband, even if he’s not actively involved or participating in the session. (I love bringing him with me wherever I go, as often as I can. It gives me an immense feeling of power knowing he’s MINE.)  My time is valuable, so I only want to session with subs/slaves whose interests align with mine. In the beginning, I go over limits, boundaries, goals, and try to gather as much information as possible. The more information I have, the better I’m able to orchestrate the session. Most sessions are about an hour to two hours; longer ones I require breaks for both myself and the sub so neither of us gets burnt out. 

 

PD: Do You enjoy Dominating male and female subs in the same way? Do you meet couples?

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I am much, much more sadistic and cruel with male subs than female subs *laughs*. Female subs get my more sensual, softer domination style. Being bisexual as well as a married Domme, I adore couples. I love to help spice up relationships!

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PD: What is Your favourite fetish?

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Ooh this is a tough one. I know it’s controversial to many, but financial domination is definitely my favorite. In a world ruled by money, it’s the ultimate exchange of power, control, and submission. And it helps me achieve my long term goals. But I am also a ruthless sadist, and I’ve always been a huge lover of CBT. One of my first subs I got to play with was into hardcore ballbusting, and I loved every minute of it. And I live for anything weird/obscure. 

 

PD: If someone asked You to take them past their limits, would You?

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If it was a soft limit, possibly. But a hard limit? No. I’m not going to be the reason

that your session becomes traumatic. And if a sub or slave approaches me with

the ole “I have no limits” I will quickly rectify that. EVERYONE has limits, and I

guarantee I will find yours very quickly.

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PD: How important is after care to You?

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With in person sessions it’s very important. I want the sub to know that they are

safe, and I want to know that they are feeling secure with how the session went.

With online sessions, it’s a lot different. Many subs experience immense guilt or

shame after the session is done and often delete their accounts or run away

before aftercare is something I can even discuss. 

But, when I am able to do so, I always tell them to drink some water (or offer if it’s

IRL), and ask if they need a few minutes to gather themselves and clean

themselves up. And I always ask how they’re feeling.

 

PD: Why do you think people are drawn to BDSM?

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I think there’s a multitude of reasons. It’s easy to say “your fetish/kink came from

something that happened to you in childhood” but I do think there’s more to it than

that. I think a lot of people go throughout life feeling a sense of, “not fitting in,” or

wanting to belong somewhere. I think a lot of people in life either seek control, or

desire to release control. Sex is an innate part of our existence, and BDSM is the

fringe part of society that says, “let’s experience life to the fullest”. 

 

PD: Is there anything that You haven’t done within the BDSM world

that You wish to?

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I am *dying* to add a violet wand to my collection of toys. I’ve gotten to play with them on occasion, but I want to have my very own so I can do more electro play. I’m also excited to explore the world of latex! 

 

PD: How do You feel about the way that Pro-Dommes and BDSM in general get portrayed in the media? 

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*laughs* I think more often than not we are portrayed like cartoon villains on the way to a Halloween party. For me, my style of domination is much more “bratty, bubbly girl next door with nerdy/valley girl vibes”. I wear lots of pink and colorful outfits, and frilly lingerie. Don’t get me wrong, I love wearing black and ominous fetish clothing too. But I think a lot of people assume if you’re a dominatrix that’s the *only* way to be one.

 

PD: Do You consider Yourself as being a Dominatrix in all aspects of your life or do You separate this from a more “vanilla” life?

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I’d say it’s a bit of both. Like I said before, I’m pretty domineering even in my “vanilla life”, I’m a control freak, a planner, and a go-getter. I take charge and get things done. But I do also have moments of softness, silliness, and being playful where I’m more relaxed and less “on” if that makes sense.

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PD: What do you like to do in your spare time?

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I love exploring all that fabulous Las Vegas has to offer with my subby hubby. I enjoy good food, good coffee, good weed, and good company. I love reading, cooking and baking. I play retro/vintage video games and I’m a total cinephile. And I recently adopted a kitten this year so she’s been taking up a lot of my free time.

 

PD: If you were not doing this, what other career would you like to have? 

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I would love to someday run my own animal rescue, or some kind of coffee shop/bookstore. I tried many different jobs before I fell into this one, and none of them worked for me. The thought of working a 9-5 ever again makes my skin crawl. I love being in control of my schedule and doing what I want, when I want. 

 

PD: Do you feel a sense of pride about what you do?

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Absolutely! Being a dominatrix has allowed me to achieve so much in such a short amount of time. I’ve broken the generational cycle of poverty I was born into, I’ve climbed my way out of debt and now I’m building up my portfolio and savings so I can buy my first home and eventually retire someday. 

 

PD: What is your personal motivation to work as a dominatrix?

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Besides being in control? *laughs* In all seriousness, I think sexuality is an essential part of who we are. It’s the fiber of existence. BDSM is an extension of our sexuality. Life is too short to not enjoy ourselves. I thoroughly live by the motto “Don’t yuck my yum”. There’s lots of kinks and fetishes I personally don’t partake in, but I will *NEVER* tell consenting adults what they should or shouldn’t be allowed to enjoy. Most people have some kind of desire, some kind of fantasy or sexual urge that if the wrong person were to find out, they would feel judged or ashamed. I think that’s a silly way to live life, and I want everyone to let their freak flag fly.

 

PD: Anything else you would like to mention?

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There isn’t “one” right way to be a dominatrix. You can be a domme and show nudity, you can be a domme and never show a glimpse of skin. You can be a domme and still do vanilla porn. You can be a domme and never be called “Mistress”. You can be a domme and only do online work, or only do in person sessions. You can be a lifestyle domme, or a professional domme, or both! That’s the beauty of BDSM; sure there are some “rules” (no minors, nothing illegal, practice SSC, RACK, and PRICK) but beyond that, it’s YOUR world. You call the shots, you get to decide what you’re into, what your boundaries are, and what you cater to and I absolutely love that. 

I would also like to add that a lot of lifestyle subs seem to think they’re entitled to free kink from professionals. They are not. Paying a professional dominatrix for her time and/or femdom sessions is NOT the same thing as financial domination. If you want to find a FLR or a lifestyle domme, don’t approach a professional. But if you’re new, shy, and want to dip your toes into the wonderful world of BDSM, having an online session with me is a fantastic way to do just that. Your submission begins through your internet connection, and there’s infinite ways for me to you. 

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