I have been with my partner for 16 years. We have dabbled in mild BDSM for the past year or so and I have developed a liking for it. My partner does enjoy it but I'm not sure she would want to take it further. Any ideas on how I can tell her I want to explore more?
I would begin with a pair of hand cuffs. Be spontaneous. These days, most of us are pretty liberated. Pull them out next time you and your partner are in a playful mood. Or, you could try posing with them on.
There are some very good steel toy cuffs with a safety release. That way, you can just begin with play. You do not need to begin with a lengthy negotiation.