Everybody has their own tastes when it comes to sex. Some love to be adventurous and try out new things, while others are more than happy with what they know and have enjoyed in the past. There is always something for everyone.
And the same applies to hiring an escort.
Wouldn’t it be dull if there was no variety in the types of escort one could choose? And it would certainly be a sorry story if escorts all offered exactly the same services, with no particular taste catered for.
And so, when it comes to BDSM, it’s great to know that there are Belfast escorts out there who will cater for those with less ‘vanilla’ tastes.
But, firstly, what exactly is BDSM?
BDSM is a general term for Bondage, Dominance, Submission/Sadism and Masochism. These terms tend to conjure up images of kinky sex involving paddles, whips and chains, but BDSM represents so much more than that and – contrary to popular belief – doesn’t necessarily involve sexual intercourse or even any sexual act whatsoever.
Let’s quickly look more closely at BDSM:
Bondage refers to an activity where a submissive partner is physically restrained by items such as ropes, belts or cuffs. Usually, the submissive partner will be tied to the bed where the master/mistress will then take control and do as they please.
Domination means being in control of your partner during sexual activity. If you are dominant, you will want to book a submissive escort who allows you to take control and give you the experience that you want. The flip side is being submissive…
A submissive person is someone who enjoys being dominated. A submissive person allows their dominant partner to be in control, which means that in terms of booking a BDSM escort, they would seek a dominant, also referred to as a mistress/dominatrix.
Sadism and Masochism is the part of BDSM which makes most people feel that BDSM is kinky and wild, due to the fact that sadism and masochism is the enjoyment from giving and receiving a painful experience.
A sadistic person experiences pleasure for inflicting pain onto somebody else, whereas a masochist is somebody who gets sexually aroused from being punished and being in some sort of pain or discomfort. But roles should come from a stance of giving each other pleasure and they should always be aware of each others’ limits.
When booking an escort who specialises in BDSM, there is more to think about and consider than simply choosing one that you like the look of. BDSM includes many diverse acts and fantasies; plus you need to consider how ‘extreme’ you wish to go. Are you a novice, dipping your toe into the BDSM world and unsure what it is that you really want? Or are you a more experienced ‘kinkster’ who knows what you like and has higher pain thresholds? These are things to consider and it’s worth chatting through these things with the escort that you’d like to meet.
As in ‘standard’ escorting, you can choose between incall or outcall booking. For some escorts who specialise in BDSM, outcall bookings may not be an option as they may prefer to use their own ‘dungeon’ or ‘playspace’ which will be equipped with an assortment of kinky toys and equipment. However, if you do book an escort who performs BDSM as an outcall, she will almost certainly bring with her a wide variety of toys including strap-ons, paddles, restraints, whips and handcuffs, if not more. When booking, it’s a wise idea to find out what toys and outfits she will bring with her. Any BDSM escort worth their salt will want to discuss these things with you and find out your likes and dislikes beforehand.
Another subject which needs to be covered when speaking to a BDSM escort is safety. It is vital that safety measures are put into place, such as making her aware of your level of pain, dos and don’t, limits, and safe words. A safe word is arranged prior to the session starting, and is an agreed word which, when spoken by you, puts an immediate stop to all activities. This is essential as it tells the escort that you have reached a certain level of pain or are in some kind of discomfort. It is never recommended to begin a BDSM session without a safe word.
It should also be established when booking whether or not the BDSM escort will offer full sex, or even any sexual activity. As stated earlier, it is a misconception that BDSM involves sexual intercourse or other sexual acts. While there are BDSM escorts who offer this, there are also those that don’t, focusing purely on the ‘kink’ activities, so it’s worth speaking about this to avoid any potential crossed wires later.
Often, when meeting the escort for your session, there will be a chat beforehand to go over what should have already been discussed at the booking stage. This is a chance to finalise your likes/dislikes and dos/don’ts before the session commences, as well as establishing that all-important safe word.
Once the session is over, a BDSM escort – like many dominatrixes – should ensure that you are feeling okay. A BDSM session can be quite intense, especially if you are a beginner, and the escort should ensure your safety even after the session, calming you down and allowing you to relax. Then – and only then – should the escort leave.
We hope this has given you a little more understanding when it comes to booking a BDSM escort.